Yesterday, a friend of mine shared a picture of a female Marine who appeared to be very overweight. The caption to the photo was "Semper Pie".
This is the photo in question.
If you read this blog regularly, you may already know how I feel about people ripping off photos of people and posting them online simply to ridicule them. Nevertheless, the person who posted this wasn't quite as nasty as he could have been. I went to the original source of the photo and read comment after nasty comment about the woman pictured above.
My comment was "Perhaps she's in a family way?" By that, I meant maybe she was either pregnant or had just delivered. Then I added that when I read mean comments on pictures like this one, it makes me want to kick some people in the nuts. Maybe that's not the nicest thing to say. Sorry about that. The guy ended up deleting the post because he thought I was upset about it. Someone messaged me to find out if I was. What was said in our group was pretty tame. What annoyed me were the comments on the original post, made by a bunch of mean spirited males.
Anyway, another friend who is now a retired Marine, mentioned that the woman pictured above had been in an online group she's in. She had just delivered twins and had been on bedrest for much of the pregnancy due to it being high risk. She has apparently since left the Marines and lost a lot of weight. The jokes stopped after my Marine friend commented.
Bill and I talked about this yesterday, how a lot of times, people in the military feel fine about mocking strangers about their appearance. It's usually men who do this. It's especially bad if the person being mocked is also in uniform. It never seems to occur to these folks that perhaps the people they are mocking have legitimate medical reasons for being the size they are. They are just easy pickings for a laugh.
One thing I don't like about military culture is that sometimes, the people within it are very intolerant of people's feelings. If someone is legitimately hurt by someone's words or actions, some people in the military accuse them of being "butthurt". I will agree that sometimes people whine about things that I don't think are ultimately that important. On the other hand, who am I or anyone else to decide what is or is not hurtful to someone else? Why should anyone have the right to belittle another person's feelings?
When you marry someone in the military, you become at risk for being mocked for being a "dependa". That is a derogatory term used by some military members for spouses who sponge off of them. But, I have also seen spouses get mocked for trying to make something of themselves. Just a week or so ago, someone complained about spouses who were advertising their home based businesses.
My comment was that people are kind of damned if they do, damned if they don't. Either they are lazy, good for nothing, "dependas" who aren't worth a shit. Or they are "uppity" or annoying for having a business, getting a degree, or otherwise making use of their time on Earth. It's a good thing that I love Bill so much.
It's depressing to think about all the unhappy people out there who enjoy making mean comments to other people. I kind of wonder where it comes from and I'm glad my husband isn't one of the mean ones.