Thursday, January 29, 2015

Girl gets slut shamed at Utah school dance...

Okay, so maybe she wasn't technically "slut shamed".  The school officials just asked her to cover her shoulders.  Wouldn't want anybody getting a hard on at the sight of a woman's bare shoulders, would we?

16 year old Gabi Finlayson and her mom picked out a beautiful and classy dress while they were on a  trip to Paris over the holidays.  Gabi has an adorable figure and the dress is very timeless looking and extends well past her knees.  School officials specified that shoulder straps had to be at least two inches wide.  Gabi and her mom thought they were in compliance, but the chaperones at her dance didn't agree.  She ended up wearing a coat all evening and said she felt embarrassed and ashamed instead of beautiful.

In the same article I posted, another teenager from Florida was busted for wearing a skirt deemed too short.  Not content with simply having the girl change clothes, school officials made her wear a florescent colored t-shirt with the words "Dress Code Violation" in large letters on it.

I remember dress codes from when I was a teen.  I don't think they are entirely inappropriate.  Kids in school do need to learn about the types of clothing that are okay to wear in a workplace, for instance. However, I think when it comes to social events like dances, a little leeway is appropriate.  Looking at the photo of Gabi, I don't think her dress was at all in poor taste.  It's tasteful and beautiful and she looks wonderful in it, certainly not sexually provocative.  There's no reason why her evening had to be ruined by an arbitrary rule.

As for the other teen, I can't see why it's necessary to force someone to wear a shaming t-shirt.  While I'm sure the school administrators think the idea of shaming a teenager may force them to be more careful about their dress, I also think such a bright green/yellow t-shirt with the words "Dress Code Violation" must be somewhat distracting to other students.  The t-shirt was designed to be noticeable, after all.  How is that better than wearing a skirt that might be a bit shorter than school officials prefer?

I'm reading about these two school related incidents today, as I also read about a couple dozen kids in a Texas school who were rounded up and forced to drop their pants for school officials because someone had left feces on a gym floor.  So apparently, it's okay to shame and humiliate girls for showing more skin than school officials prefer, but it's also okay for school officials to order kids to drop their pants so their underwear can be inspected for shit stains?

Actually, to his credit, Gustine, Texas school superintendent, Ken Baugh, admits that what staff at the school did was "inappropriate".  It will be interesting to see what, if anything, is done to deal with the school staff members who inappropriately asked these kids to bare it and share it.

Reading about this kind of stuff makes me glad Bill and I have no kids.  It's enough to make anyone want to homeschool.


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  1. I was in the process of being slut-shamed at a prom in Utah by a PTA president and two other busybody chaperons, but the principal, who was also a bishop, came to my defense and said there was no written rule in place banning spaghetti straps on prom dresses.

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    1. Ugh. So glad I am not from Utah! It was probably even worse when I was a teen.

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