All week, Bill has to go to work dressed in business casual attire. He has to attend ACAP (don't ask me what this stands for), where he will get all sorts of advice for dealing with life beyond the military. This thing includes workshops for resume writing, job hunting, financial planning, and what not. I'm sure it's very useful, especially for those who haven't been in civilian life since the 80s. Bill, of course, did have a stint out of the Army, where he got stuck working in factories.
“She had no idea that dancing around in a short skirt in front of a bunch of boys was causing many of them to think sensual thoughts about her and the other cheerleaders,” daughters Jill, Jana, Jessa and Jinger wrote of their mom’s high-school days. “She also used to go to school dances but stopped participating when God convicted her that dancing stirred up a lot of sensual desires in young men and women that could not be righteously fulfilled.”
"They all say that they 'have a natural physical desire toward men' and 'thank God for making us 'normal.'"
Review by knotheadusc in Books
When we first met, Bill used to talk about his days in the factory in Arkansas. They moved to Arkansas because ex wanted to. She had her mind set on living in a small town and buying a little house, which they proceeded to do. The house was cute, but a bit of a money pit. It needed a lot of work and they weren't prepared to get it done.
The first place he worked was a toy factory. He took the job because the others he'd applied to paid a lot less. He could have earned $22,000 as a parole officer, no doubt a stressful and dangerous job. Or he could have sold insurance, which paid maybe $23,000. The toy factory paid $27,000 and the job sucked. He stayed there for awhile, supporting his ex, three kids, and her sister and daughter on that. Then he got a job at Whirlpool, which was a much better and more lucrative job. There, he made about $40,000. It still wasn't enough, but it was a lot better than what he had been making. Around that time, his credit rating was in the toilet, mainly because he let his ex handle the money. She is not as skilled in finance as she claims she is.
This time, he's in a much better position for getting out of the military. The job market is probably worse, but he has more connections and contacts. He's better educated and has more skills. He has a much better credit rating. He isn't being abused by his spouse and we can move wherever there's work. Yes, he's older, but he doesn't look old. And he doesn't have to worry about supporting three little kids… or any kids, for that matter. He also gets retirement.
I'm sitting here watching this crazy, annoying chick named Amanda on Dr. Phil. She was a runaway and has this really thick New England accent. I wonder where she gets the accent, since her parents don't talk like that. But then, my parents have thick southern accents I don't have one. I watch this and realize how happy this kind of drama isn't a part of my life.
Life is pretty stressful when all you have to worry about is yourself and maybe a spouse. Throw in an out of control teenager, and it must get very crazy quickly. I remember my own teen years and the drama of those days. I wasn't a drinker, drug abuser, or boy crazy teen. I just had an attitude at times and was a bit depressed. I remember a lot of fighting in those days. Actually, my teen years probably kicked off the years of depression I dealt with before I finally did something about it. I'm amazed by how different I feel now compared to then. The medications I took, along with moving out of the environment, had an incredible effect on my moods. I'm a lot more in control now than I was then. That's why I'm not panicking as we stare down retirement.
I wonder if maybe the Duggar family is feeling some similar emotions right now. I say this because they are also in transition. For years, JimBoob and Michelle have made a living out of their ability to make babies. It appears that Michelle Duggar's uterus has finally cried "uncle!" and their kids are getting too old to be forced to live in dorms. It looks like Jessa Duggar is the next one to get married. She's a pretty young woman who, perhaps, might have had more of a spirit than the others. So she's being married off to guy two years younger than she is… The Duggars will probably get a somewhat interesting episode or two out of that.
What I'd like to see if a book by one of the kids who obviously aren't into the fundie lifestyle. Hopefully, one of them has the writing skills and will to make it happen. In the meantime, on Television Without Pity, there's an interesting discussion about the book the four eldest Duggar girls have written.
They write about how their mother was kind of slutty for going to dances…
They pretty much make an anti-gay statement (big surprise) when they write…
I won't be reading their book unless I find myself exceedingly bored and in need of snarking material.
Here's a review of a book I read after it was recommended on RfM. It pretty much explains why growing up in a super large family might suck. Oddly enough, I can't find it on Amazon.
One man's account of growing up alone in a crowd...Mar 10, 2008 (Updated Mar 10, 2008)
Review by knotheadusc in Books
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Recommend this product? Yes