Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Stop blaming Bobby Brown for Whitney's death!

So, Whitney Houston has now been dead for four days.  As I pointed out in my last post about her sudden death, the public has been awfully fickle about Whitney.  Not even a week ago, she was the butt of jokes.  People were calling her a washed-up has-been.  She was reportedly "broke" and making an ass of herself at parties, under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or both.  No one was talking about her once beautiful voice or her once stunning looks.  She had become an embarrassment.

Case in point.  I found this rather mean-spirited blog post about Whitney last night.  Note the comments and the dates.  People were actually predicting her death not even 24 hours before she died!  There was no love for Whitney at all.

And then, suddenly it all changed.  She was reported dead and suddenly we had unlimited coverage of her demise.  Celebrities were coming out of the woodwork to talk about how beautiful and talented she was.  Singers talked about how she had inspired them.  The Grammys hastily turned into a Whitney Houston memorial show.  Regularly scheduled programs were being pre-empted for more Whitney memorials.  BET actually pre-empted a showing of Dreamgirls, the film that put Jennifer Hudson on the map.  Jennifer Hudson admitted to being inspired by Whitney and sang for her, just as she did when Michael Jackson died.

The Whitney memorial on BET was laughable, though.  First off, they were showing her videos from the 1980s, cutting them off at the end.  Secondly, the emcee was clearly reading cue cards and probably wasn't old enough to appreciate Whitney in her heyday.  He even mispronounced Whitney's famous mother's name, calling her "Kissy" instead of "Cissy" (pronounced Sissy).

And then, Bobby Brown's name came up.  People seem to blame him for Whitney's death because she supposedly went down the tubes when they were married.  Whitney Houston met Bobby Brown in 1989.  She was an established star, beautiful, successful, talented, and still in fabulous physical shape and voice.  At age 26, she was in the prime of her life.  She was certainly no fragile, naive teenager.  Or maybe she was naive, but she shouldn't have been.  Not at age 26.

They married three years later.  Whitney was 29.  Again, she was not at a tender age.  I would sure hope  that at age 29, she would have been able to properly make a decision as serious as to whom she should marry.  But again, even if she wasn't, most people would have expected some sensible decision making skills from a 29 year old woman.  Daughter Bobbi Kristina came along in 1993, along with Whitney Houston's turn on The Bodyguard and the hugely successful soundtrack that went with it..  Not long after that, stories about Whitney Houston's drug dabbling started to appear.  What?  The R&B prom queen is doing drugs?  Say is isn't so!

Whitney stayed married to Bobby for about 15 years.  I can only assume that she chose to stay with him.  Again, even as she aged, she was still very beautiful and talented.  She could have had her pick of men.  She had enough money to stay single and be very comfortable if she wanted to.  But she stayed with Bobby, who presumably is a drug addict.  They divorced in April 2007, almost five full years before her death.  Five years she could have spent making an effort to move on and get past her personal problems.  People get divorced so they can be on their own, after all.

Indeed, back in 2002, Diane Sawyer interviewed Whitney.  During that interview, Sawyer asked her which vice was the "biggest devil" for her.  And Whitney said:

No one makes me do anything I don’t want to do. It’s my decision, so the biggest devil is me. I’m either my best friend or my worst enemy. And that’s how I have to deal with it.

So there.  She said it.  Bobby Brown is not to blame for Whitney's problems.  Could he have been a better husband?  Sure.  But she chose to marry him after knowing him for a few years.  She chose to take drugs and drink.  She freely admits that no one made her do what she didn't want to do.  

It's tragic that Whitney Houston died.  She will now never have the chance to make a true comeback.  She leaves a daughter who, at age 18, still really needs her.  But ultimately, her death could have been prevented.  Whitney Houston was in charge of her life... and most likely, her death.  Being a star is surely not easy, but she had other choices.  She had the means and the responsibility to get better, if not for her sake, then for her daughter's sake.     

Maybe Bobby Brown is a drug addicted thug.  But he did not kill Whitney Houston.  And I, for one, do not blame him for her death.


  1. Hear. Hear. The story is sad enough without unneeded recrimination indeed. :o( Thanks for telling it like it is, Knotty!

  2. Thanks Smorg. I just had to get that off my chest.

  3. Bobby has his own demons but he did not cause Whitney's descent into the drug culture. I loved her to pieces and no matter what she did, it was hard to think badly of her. However, everyone is doing Bobby a huge disservice. There is a lot of information on her childhood, her young adulthood and right up to her death. Any discerning reader can see she made her own choices. And that what she had was not enough for her. That beautiful voice, smile and talent just wasn't enough... RIP, whatever was causing your problems is gone now...

  4. Thanks for the comment, Eboni. I'm just now getting around to seeing news coverage of the funeral. It looks like she got a tremendous send off. May she rest in peace.


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