Thursday, August 18, 2011

Barbies are akin to porn, part II

I got so worked up over the Barbie-pornography blog post that I posted it on Facebook.  I truly did wonder if it was satire at first, but then I realized that this blogger was serious.  One of my friends took me on, saying that she had also "banned" Barbies in her house because she didn't like the princess theme it champions.

I want to make it clear that it's not that I don't think parents should have the right to choose toys for their kids.  Certainly, they should.  My problem is that Barbie dolls were not an issue in this mom's house until her 7 year old son had a chat with his dad about "appropriate toys".  As my Facebook friend pointed out, 7 year olds tend to take things very literally.  So when the little boy saw the half naked Barbie doll, he immediately assumed it was inappropriate.  He took his concerns to his mother, who, instead of explaining to her son why naked dolls are different than naked people are, immediately started thinking about her son being sexually aroused by Barbie dolls.  

So what does she do?  She immediately bans the "pornographic" dolls from her house.  I wonder how her daughters felt when their mom suddenly took their toys away because of their brother?  I can just hear it now.  "Girls, I have to take these dolls (that I gave to you) away, because your brother might not be able to control himself if he sees them naked." Yeah, that won't breed resentment.

In the same vein, I think it does a disservice to children when we teach them that males have to be "protected" from the female gender.  A few years ago, I was watching the Duggar family on TV.  They were on an excursion and one of the daughters yelled "Nike!"  All of the boys obediently looked at their shoes.  Why?  Because a woman they considered "inappropriately dressed" walked by and they didn't want the boys to have impure, lustful thoughts.  The rationale is that males can't help having those thoughts and they can't control themselves.  So it's up to females to protect them from those thoughts and feelings.  

How insulting.  And really, how ridiculous that we can't teach little boys to control themselves so that when they become men, they are in control of their thoughts and actions.  What a convenient excuse that makes when a man rapes or otherwise abuses a woman.  Obviously, she asked for it because she was dressed inappropriately and didn't protect men from her sexy body.  They couldn't help themselves because she "made" them have lustful thoughts by not covering herself to their satisfaction.

I'm all for keeping things clean.  If I had a daughter, I would want her to dress modestly.  I would also want to be able to choose which toys are appropriate for my home.  But I don't think we should be celebrating moms who teach their sons that they can't control their impulses and need other people to protect them from lust.  


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